My abuse story was never about the abuser.
It was about me... That doesn’t mean I take the blame. Abuse is never the survivor’s fault.
✨ To stop rescuing.
✨ To stop performing.
✨ To choose you.
You might have left a toxic or emotionally abusive relationship, or maybe you're still untangling yourself from one. You might be the one everyone turns to, yet you often feel invisible. You’ve spent decades rescuing, proving, pleasing, and trying to earn love that was never freely given. And now… you’re ready for more.
More peace.
More freedom.
More you.
You’re not looking for another label—you’re looking for a fresh start.
Life Redesign is for you if:
You’ve left an abuser, addict, or emotional manipulator and want to rebuild without obsessing over who they were.
You’re done with overfunctioning, overgiving, and waiting to be chosen.
You’re questioning everything, including who you are outside of your roles as mother, partner, daughter, or carer.
You’ve spent years reading self-help books and still feel stuck.
You want to reconnect with joy, laughter, and the version of you who feels alive again.
You’re curious—not broken—and ready to write a new chapter, your way.
This is a home for women 40+ who are choosing themselves, sometimes for the very first time.
Not because life has been easy, but because they're finally ready to live it on their own terms.
You don't need permission.
You need a path.
And I’m here to walk it with you.
I’m Susan, and I help women stop living on autopilot after abuse, abandonment, or burnout—and start creating a life that actually feels like theirs.
I don’t believe you need another label, diagnosis, or long-winded “healing journey.”
And it begins the moment you say,
“I’m done living like this.”
Choose what feels right today!
This isn’t therapy.
It’s not a rigid program.
It’s a radical return to yourself—with me walking beside you every step of the way.
My personalised coaching is for women who are ready to stop circling the same patterns and start living life on their own terms. In these one-to-one private sessions, we focus entirely on you—your healing, your desires, your next chapter.
Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of a toxic relationship, breaking free from codependency, or simply asking, “What do I want now?”, we’ll co-create a plan tailored to your life, your pace, and your truth.
What you’ll receive:
Private sessions designed around your unique goals and experiences
Gentle but powerful tools to help you stop rescuing and start receiving
Custom journal prompts and reflective exercises between sessions
Practical steps, emotional support, and mindset shifts that actually stick
A compassionate guide who sees who you really are—even if you've forgotten
This is your safe space to rebuild. To reclaim. To remember that your life still belongs to you.
Curious about how it could feel to be deeply supported, seen, and free to choose you?
You’ve spent long enough apologising for your needs, your truth, your voice.
It’s time to come home to you.
Unapologetically You is more than a journal—it’s a powerful companion on your journey back to yourself. Filled with thought-provoking prompts, space for reflection, and encouragement for your healing heart, this guided journal helps you reconnect with your worth, rebuild confidence, and rediscover the woman you were always meant to be.
Whether you’re recovering from a toxic relationship or simply done shrinking to fit into someone else’s story, this is your invitation to take up space—unapologetically.
✨ Start owning your voice.
✨ Rewrite your beliefs.
✨ Reclaim your life.Let this journal be your mirror, your guide, and your reminder that you are already enough.
24 Jun 2025 17:01
It was about me... That doesn’t mean I take the blame. Abuse is never the survivor’s fault.
19 Jun 2025 12:40
There was a time in my life when I found myself living in a furnace room. No job. No kids. One friend - the owner of the furnace room and I am forever grateful for her kindness. Just me, four concrete walls, and the deafening silence of everything I’d lost—or so I thought. It wasn’t glamorous. It wasn’t even safe, really. But what it was, in hindsight, was the beginning of something bigger than I could ever have imagined.
30 May 2025 10:02
Have you ever had one of those days where you pause mid-tea sip and think, “What if I just started over?” Not a dramatic burn-it-all-down sort of start over (although that has its flair), but a curious, open-hearted, intentional life redesign — the kind where you get to be the architect, the artist, the dreamer, and the doer.
23 May 2025 09:58
There’s a place many survivors of abuse know intimately, though it doesn’t always have a name. It comes after the leaving, after the chaos, after the immediate danger has passed. On paper, you’re free. But inside, you feel frozen. Exhausted. Lost. This place is called the void.
15 May 2025 02:35
In today’s self-help and social media-saturated world, it's never been easier to find a name for every experience, reaction, and wound. Empath. Highly sensitive person. Trauma-bonded. Codependent. Victim of narcissistic abuse. Inner child. Attachment style. Love language. While these labels can offer comfort and clarity, there’s a fine line between using a label to understand yourself—and hiding behind one to avoid healing.
7 May 2025 05:08
The internet is overflowing with content about narcissism. There are grandiose narcissists, covert ones, malignant, communal, somatic, cerebral—even spiritual and parental narcissists. It seems like every time you scroll, there’s a new subtype to watch out for. Check out my extensive list of narcissism types HERE